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The Bad That Spoils Our Good

A few days ago, I went to the Blood Donor Center to donate my blood. I was so excited to be doing something so good for someone I might never meet and would never know me.

The thought that this action will save someone’s life got me even more driven and excited.

On getting to the Clinic, I was ask a lot of questions. The health workers were basically doing their due diligence to see if I was qualified to donate my blood.

Lol… I thought I was trying to do you guys a favor. I thought I was saving a life by this “act of generosity”.

What I did not realise was that, as noble as my act was, it could also put someone’s life in danger.

After lots of questions, I was deemed unqualified to donate my blood.

” I’m sorry, but you cannot donate your blood right now”. Those words pierced me like a light sharp knife. I did not know how to respond except with a smile that was trying so hard to cover the burning tears. I just wanted to leave that place.

It turned out that due to my history with malaria, I could not donate my blood, hence, denying someone an opportunity to life.

At that point, all I could think of was how hurt I was, how disappointed I was, how heartbroken I was. I was only trying to help. Why did helping someone become so much difficult.

It was only today (which promoted me to write this) that my eyes were opened to see beyond my hurt.

What I saw as an act of generosity could have killed someone. Since Malaria could be transmitted by blood, the recipient could get the parasite from my blood and could die as a result.

Which would I have preferred? A tough choice right?

What I realized was how much I want to help people, the right motives, the purest of hearts, but all that was not enough. If I go ahead with all of these, but what I have to give is not good enough, I would only be endangering the person’s life.

Now, I am trying hard to strike a balance between the feeling of “not good enough” and “not having what is required” to help. It is not a question of how good you are but about what you have to offer.

According to the nurse, I would have to wait another 3 years before I am qualified to donate my blood.

Within this period, I could have rid myself of the malaria parasite. I could develop my blood cells to be stronger and better fit to help someone.

Rather than rushing to give what you have, have you spent some time developing what you have? Because if you don’t, what you have will not be good enough to help someone. And if you decide to still push it, you might end up endangering someone’s life. Perhaps unintentionally ending the life of the person you are trying to save.

Rather than jumping at every available chance to help, first do a self-examination.

Is there something that could put the person or people you are trying to help in danger?

If there is, it is not wrong to withdraw. You will be helping the person more this way.

If you can find an alternative, even better. But please don’t jump in like Superman who has been brainwashed by Brainiac. You would only end up hurting the person.

Do share with someone you think needs to read this as well. Kindly share your thoughts in the comments section as well.

What do you think?

Written by Temitope

Temitope Durotoye is a Hope and Self Discovery Advocate. He is proudly African and loves to see young Africans be the best versions of themselves.

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