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The Need to be Better

One of the most fascinating facts about the world is its interdependence and interconnectivity. In simple terms, everything is dependent on everything, and nothing was made to be independent of other things.

Think about this; human beings inhale Oxygen and exhale Carbon dioxide, plants, however, take in Carbon dioxide and release Oxygen. Without plants, there would be no Oxygen for human beings to live, and without human beings, there would be no Carbon dioxide for the plants to live. This is just one of many examples of the interdependence that our world lives by.

What this means in essence is that everyone is lacking something that can be provided by someone else. This is a major reason that relationships are very important to our survival as human beings. The male cannot reproduce by himself, neither can the female. They both need each other to give what they have, in order to produce what they want.

Another example is in corporate bodies. I don’t think you would be able to find any Fortune 500 company that was started and sustained by one person. As a matter of fact, many of them entered into partnerships. What one person is lacking, the other provides, and together, they are able to build something that would not just stand the test of time, but a hugely successful enterprise.

The society we live in today pushes the “self-made” narrative, but is anyone really self-made? Biology actually teaches us that every human being is a product of their genotype (inherited from family) and their environment (social interactions). This, therefore, discredits the notion that people are self-made.

Of course, they may have made certain decisions or done certain things that pushed them to where they are today. Still, all of those qualities did not just appear from nowhere. They were either the result of nature or nurture or both.

Why are we taking so much time to talk about the interdependent nature of the world, and human beings in particular? The reason is simple; if one party decides to stop giving enough or stop giving at all, the world suffers for it. The action or inaction of one affects the state of the whole.

Bringing this home, the world can only be a better place if everyone in it becomes a better person.

We must understand that the world is a bitter place because of the actions of some people. And these actions have produced further actions that have only succeeded in making it even more bitter.

One quote that is quite common among counsellors and social psychologists is that “Hurt people hurt people”. It forms a cycle that keeps going on and on, almost impossible to stop. But we can decide that it stops with us. We can decide to be better, to make the world less bitter.

Now, I must admit that the effect of this won’t be obvious immediately. It will take time, and that is expected considering how much bitterness the world is engulfed in.

But if each individual takes it upon himself or herself to be better regardless of what everyone else is doing, that individual would directly or indirectly influence other people to be better as well. And bit by bit, we are making the world a better place.

Let’s be honest, this sounds like fantasy. Even the bible says that the heart of a man is desperately wicked, but it does not say that everyone has to stay wicked. This means that it is in the power of man to decide what he wants to be, good or bad. And on a daily basis, we choose who we want to be.

We may be good by nature, but being better takes intentional effort. Saying no to the bad that is the world, and embracing the goodness that is in you.

How you choose to live your life is not just your business. Whether you like it or not, it will affect people that you may never meet in your lifetime, including people in your lineage. Someone might think that it does not matter to disobey traffic laws. But how would he/she feel if there is an accident, and he/she realises that they just ran over a relative to someone close to them?

We do not want to think about this, but that does not change the fact that it is a possibility. Our actions if unchecked can go to places we have no control over and produce undesirable results. This is why we need to be better and be intentional about it.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments section.

What do you think?

Written by Temitope

Temitope Durotoye is a Hope and Self Discovery Advocate. He is proudly African and loves to see young Africans be the best versions of themselves.

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